Men and women alike have fantasies about their ideal sex partners. One man’s fantasies became a reality when he began to date a woman 10 years younger than he, who had a seemingly insatiable appetite for sex. Here, one man confesses what it’s like dating his dream woman.
Experiences. Amos Malone writes via Men’s Health about his experiences dating the woman of his dreams.
Meeting. Malone writes about how shortly after his divorce, he met this woman in an almost cliched setting— he was teaching a local workshop, and she was one of his students.
Teacher. “And then along came Natalie, seemingly heaven-sent. We met at a writing workshop; I was her teacher. For everything in the bedroom, though, I would be the student,” writes Malone, via Men’s Health.
Desires. Malone explains that the woman he had met and fallen for, Natalie, was starting to be a challenge to keep up with. “How could I, a mere aging mortal, expect to satisfy this woman’s Olympian desires?” writes Malone.
Jealousy. Malone and Natalie eventually moved in together, which only brought along feelings of jealousy from Malone towards Natalie. Most of the jealousy came from Natalie’s fervent use of sex toys, however underlying issues of jealousy came from Malone’s uneasiness with Natalie’s past.
Obsession. “The more I obsessed over getting 100 percent of Natalie, the more I felt I was losing her—and a bit of myself,” writes Malone, via Men’s Health.
Therapy. Malone began to notice that his jealousy and self-consciousness began to affect his relationship, and began to see a therapist. Therapy proved to be helping, and soon he was back to his normal self again.
Accepting. “I was more accepting of the truth: I wouldn’t be a teenage horndog again. I would never resume my sexual peak. Maybe I’m even a lousy lay. But none of that changed this: Natalie chose me, wrinkles and all,” writes Malone.
Happy. After coming to terms with Natalie’s past, Malone was able to allow himself to be happy in his relationship, and not have to compare himself to any of Natalie’s past relationships.
Taboo. Relationships with a significant age gap in them are sometimes seen as taboo, because people assume that one person is simply a beneficiary, and not actually in the relationship for love.
Psychology. Contrary to popular stereotypes, this isn’t always the case, and there is actually a psychology behind why women genuinely like to date older men.
Truth. “Younger women prefer to date older men for many reasons. The truth of the matter is that older men come with maturity, grace and dignity. They value their younger mates and treat them with more respect,” says therapist Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, as reported by Fox News.
Refreshing. Dating an older man can be quite refreshing for younger women, especially because the men in their own age group don’t usually have the same mindsets as they do. More and more men are choosing to settle down later, and women that want to settle down earlier aren’t choosing to wait around for when their partners are ready.
Children. “A younger woman who is mature for her age may want children, so biologically, it makes sense to go after a man who has the means and resources to provide for her and for those children,” says psychologist Dr. Cooper Lawrence, as reported by Fox News.
Judgments. Despite what a relationship may look like from an outsider’s perceptive, it’s important to keep an open mind and to not be quick to make judgements.